We are approaching Valentine’s Day, and there is always talk of couples and doing things for your partner. But in reality the most important thing for self-love.
Self-love is important for us to be able to give love to another. In order to fully give yourself to your partner you need to be able to provide that much love for yourself. It is important for us to appreciate our own self, to love our own self because in turn by doing that we become unstoppable.
Now I don’t mean that by loving yourself you have to be on form all the time. There will still be days that you don’t feel great or love yourself, but by practicing self-love you will just become better equipped at managing those days and then picking yourself back up again.
Last year for Valentine’s 2020 I wrote a post all about loving yourself. But this year I wanted to share a post that puts that into practice.
Begin the day with a positive affirmation
Something that will help you to begin your day in the best way, and even to set your mind-set up in the right way is to tell yourself something positive. For example, you could tell yourself how lovely you look today, how proud you are of handling a situation, of giving a talk yesterday etc.
Whatever it is that will make you smile, but is positive in relation to what you have done. This helps you begin to look at positive things about yourself, and will just help you begin your day in the best way. Plus it builds up that self-love slowly so you don’t even notice it, but in a positive way.
Related: 5 ways to create a positive mindset
I know everyone shouts and raves about this one and it is much harder to practice than preach. But it could not be truer. By comparing your life to someone else’s it is almost like dismissing your own greatness, and that is the opposite to what self-love is all about.
You have to remember that we are all different, we all view the world different, we all go through life at a different pace. You just have to accept that and accept that someone else might be at a different stage in life than you. Appreciate other people but focus on your own life.
There is so much greatness and good to be found in our own life, if we just choose to focus on it rather than wasting time comparing with others.
Celebrate ALL wins
I have mentioned this a few times before as well, but it is important for us all to acknowledge all of our wins in life. No matter how big or small every win deserves to be celebrated, and this in turn helps us on our self-love journey. This is because, you are celebrating small or big wins that involve you in some way and that is damn great.
I might just be that type of person but I get excited over anything and everything, because why not? If I have done something that is worth being proud of then I deserve to celebrate that.
Remove toxic content and relationships
I have put both of these in the same category because they both have the same intention. Remove all that toxic behaviour. Anything that does not bring you happiness or joy does not deserve a place in your life and keeping it in your life has an affect on your self-love.
It could be that someone you began following a few years ago is not what you are looking for anymore and that is ok. You can follow and unfollow who you want (and I think a lot of people need to accept that and understand that), and it is nothing against anymore but maybe you just don’t want that content on your feed anymore.
Similarly, if there is anyone in your life that is toxic then you have every right to remove them immediately. However, I know this in turn is not as easy sometimes so remember to be careful and seek extra support if needed.
Take time to calm your mind everyday
Take time everyday to just clear your thoughts and your mind. It could be as little as 10 minutes up to 30 minutes or even an hour. However long you feel necessary make sure you dedicate or even schedule in time to calm your mind.
This could be through meditating or literally just sitting on the floor or reading a book. Just do what you need to do to keep building up that self-love.
Step outside of your comfort zone
By stepping out of your comfort zone you can make yourself realise that there is stuff you can do that you didn’t think you could do before.
That is the whole point of a comfort zone, we stay there because we are comfortable it is what we know and it is safe ultimately. However, by making that leap outside the comfort zone you will realise other things that you are capable of. Things that you never believed you could do. So always step outside that comfort zone.
Practicing gratitude is something that is important to me and something I attempt to do every day. This is something that is great to do on those days where you might feel down, it can be a useful way to bring yourself back a bit. By doing this it almost helps to shift your mind to the energy around you.
Bye bye approval
There will always be someone out there that does not appreciate you. Now is the time to just embrace that and move on.
Not everyone is going to accept you or be your friend, and that is totally ok. We are all human, we are all different and we like different things. We don’t all need to be friends, sometimes we can just be civil and move on with our own life.
Write down things you love about yourself
It might be cheesy and corny but DO IT. Write down a list of all the things you love about yourself. For example, it could be how you deal with difficult people, it could be your eyes, it could be how you help people etc.
Think about everything and not just looks that you love about yourself. This is also useful on those days you are struggling to look at and remind you how amazing you truly are.
Be someone that loves
It can be hard if you are someone that is stuck in a self-hate bubble. However, like everyone else self-love takes practice and time. So go easy on yourself.
Therefore, if you need somewhere to begin then instead of focusing on loving yourself, focus on being someone that loves. Let love flow through you. For example, focus on what you love about people when you first meet them, what do you love when you go shopping, when you are writing etc. Simply make these adjustments to feel these positive emotions and love as much as possible.
What do you do to practice self-love?
There we have it some ways for you to begin practicing self-love if you have not already and become the best version of you this year.
Thanks for reading,
Gemma Jayne x