Last week I made a very last minute decision to attend a concert by myself for the first time. Previously, if I ever went to a concert it would be with my brother or with friends, however this time I couldn’t find anyone that wanted to go with me. This was mainly because no one I knew was interested in this artist.
Therefore, I started thinking and just had a proper “f*** it” moment. I made the choice that I do want to see this artist and life is too short to not do what I want. Plus sometimes it’s beneficial to do things by yourself. So I picked myself up a ticket and nervously waited until it was time to go alone.
My solo experience of going to a concert
I would be lying if I said I wasn’t nervous. I think more so of the fact that I didn’t want people to stare at me. I don’t know that is probably really stupid, but most people go in their little groups or with a friend. I think I was more nervous about the time before the concert starts and in between bands because that is when it would be more noticeable.
However, I knew if I didn’t go I would regret it because I have wanted to see this artist for such a long time. Therefore, it made sense for me to just get out of my comfort zone and do it.
Who did I see?
I guess I should tell you who I went to see, so the artist I saw was Shawn Mendes. I think he is incredibly talented, and his music is just great- there are not many artists where I love every song of theirs. So I guess when that happens I have to see them live. I am aware that he might not be everyone’s cup of tea though but that is fine.
The concert was amazing. I mean Shawn did not disappoint, and at one point I got a bit emotional when he began singing my favourite song. Trust me when I say that has never happened to me before at a concert. However, I do usually go to more upbeat and rocky concerts so maybe that is a reason.
But something just came over me and because I was by myself I was trying to like tell myself “don’t cry, don’t cry hold it together Gemma seriously”.
My thoughts on being solo was that it was not as bad as I thought. I ended up having conversations with a couple of girls next to me, which was lovely as they were from France! Also I actually saw quite a few people by themselves when I was sitting down and people watching. I was a little nervous but once the music started I was up on my feet and singing along without a care in the world.
Overall, it was one of the best and craziest experiences ever. I honestly had the best time, and I am so glad I made the decision to do this by myself. This definitely pushed me out of my comfort zone, like way out and I am happy that it did.
Therefore, if you are thinking about going solo to a concert I would say just give it a go. If you don’t like it then you can do it the once and then never again. However, you might end up having a great time, meet new people and grow your confidence.
It would not be a fair post if I didn’t mention some cons. Firstly the sitting by yourself whilst waiting for them to come out and perform, because normally you would have someone to talk to during that time. It can get a little awkward and you might notice some stares, but to be fair it didn’t bother me as much as I thought it would. People are there to have a good time so most of the time they don’t notice their surroundings.
Also something I was worried about was the fact I am a singer/dancer at concerts. I like to go crazy and have a good time. However, luckily for me I had two girls next to me who were the same, and I just danced and sang the whole time with them (yes I knew every word to every song). Once I got into it I completely forgot about the fact I was by myself and just enjoyed Shawn, because that’s what I was there to do.
However, of course it is something to think about before you make this decision. If you are with people you know you do feel more comfortable singing along and dancing, and this might not be something you are comfortable doing solo.
After this I was lucky enough to actually get a ticket near the front to see him again on the Friday (never have I done this in my life either). This goes to show that I must have had a great time if I was lucky enough to experience it again.
This time I bought myself a cider, grabbed some food (and some lovely lady got me in early through a priority que- so thank you to that lady). I loved where I was this time, because I was near the front. I have always (for any concert I have been too) got standing or seats near the front, just because I love it, so I was definitely even more excited this time.
It was incredible again, minus the fact he was ill and he didn’t actually sing “mercy” this night. However, he gave it his all and was still just as fab. Plus I had a great time again and sang all the words and danced, and I would honestly go solo to a concert again.
I guess what I wanted to get through with this post is that don’t be scared to go to a concert alone. Personally I wouldn’t want to drag someone with me that doesn’t actually know the artist and doesn’t want to be there you know? So I think why not just go by yourself? I get it is scary and weird, and you do think “what is everyone going to think”. But no one actually cares, and I spoke to so many people that I probably wouldn’t have had the opportunity to speak to if I was with someone.
I think if you are going to go, just enjoy yourself and don’t think about anyone else. You are going to see an artist or band that you enjoy and that have brought you so much joy. Just focus on all the good, and just sing and dance because honestly everyone else is there to have a good time too and see the same person/band. Plus everyone is too busy focusing on the artist because they are excited to see them to even notice. Also there were a lot more people than I thought that were also there solo. So just remember you are not the only one, and have a damn good time because you deserve it.
Have any of you been to a concert by yourself? Would you consider going by yourself?
Thanks for reading,
Gemmaa Jayne x